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Big Pharma & Big Tabbaco Ties to Food Industry and the Dangers They Pose to Our Health
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Big Pharma & Big Tabbaco Ties to Food Industry and the Dangers They Pose to Our Health 9-16-2024 - Watch This Former Big Pharma Lobbyist Expose It Al - 73,818 views Sep. 16, 2024 Video Advice - 0:00 The Food Industry Was Created By The Cigarette Industry 0:26 They Bought The Largest Food Companies 1:54 Our Food Is A Science Experiment 5:47 The Dark Truth Behind The Industry 7:42 It Hijacks Our Biology 10:05 Cheaper and More Addictive 12:04 Lifetime Treatment - Lifetime Client 14:40 The Devil's Bargain _________________________________ Calley Means (Big Pharma Whistleblower): "People Will Get Sicker and Sicker!" This is Calley Means, exposing the dark connections between Big Pharma, and the Food Industry. Calley was an insider, a former lobbyist for Big Pharma and big-name companies like Coca-Cola, as you'll learn later in this discussion. Today, he’s what we call a whistleblower. Prepare yourself— what you're about to hear will change completely how you see the world of food. Watch the full interview here:    • Calley & Casey Means: How Big Pharma ...   Calley Means Links: Website: https://www.truemed.com/ Instagram:   / calleymeans   X: https://x.com/calleymeans ?? Get his book: https://amzn.to/3MNpXRh Tucker Carlson Links: Network: https://tuckercarlson.com/ Youtube:    / @tuckercarlson   Instagram:   / tuckercarlson   Facebook:   / tuckercarlsontcn   X: https://x.com/TuckerCarlson\ Store: https://store.tuckercarlson.com/ - Speaker: Calley Means Script and Narration by Video Advice Footage provided by Storyblocks and Artgrid Music provided by Epidemic Sound and Artlist References used under Fair Use Law - FAIR USE FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES - Mirrored From: https://www.youtube.com/@VideoAdvice
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Airbnb host wakes his guest up in the middle of the night so she wouldn't miss the northern lights
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Airbnb host wakes his guest up in the middle of the night so she wouldn't miss the northern lights

Seeing the northern lights is a common bucket list adventure for many people. After all, it ticks a lot of boxes—being a dazzling light show, rich historical experience and scientific phenomenon all rolled into one. Plus there’s the uncertainty of it all, never quite knowing if you’ll witness a vivid streak of otherworldly colors dance across the sky…or simply see an oddly colored cloud. It’s nature’s slot machine, if you will. Traveler and content creator Pency Lucero was willing to take that gamble. After thorough research, she stumbled upon an Airbnb in Rörbäck, Sweden with an actual picture of the northern lights shining above the cabin in the listing. With that kind of photo evidence, she felt good about her odds. However, as soon as she landed, snow began falling so hard that the entire sky was “barely visible,” she told Upworthy. Martin, the Airbnb host, was nonetheless determined to do everything he could to ensure his guests got to see the spectacle, even offering to wake Lucero up in the middle of the night if he saw anything. Then one night, the knock came. In a video Lucero posted to TikTok, which now has over 12 million views, we hear Martin ushering her out to take a peek. Then we see Lucero’s face light up just before seeing the sky do the same.“I thought it was a prank,” the onscreen text reads in the clip. “And then I see it….”Watch: @penslucero I’m on the verge of crying every time I watch this video I still cannot believe it. ? Rörbäck, Sweden “I was mostly in awe of what this Earth is capable of,” Lucero recalled. “I never expected it to be THAT beautiful for the naked eye.” This is a hopeful sentiment against the widely accepted notion that the northern lights are often better looking in photos than they are in real life.As Lucero asserted in a follow-up video, “Our video doesn’t do it justice at all…I would argue it’s even better for the naked eye.” @penslucero Replying to @PatriotFamilyHomes ♬ Golden Hour: Piano Version - Andy Morris Others were quick to back Lucero with anecdotes of their own experience.“It’s definitely possible to see it like in the pics. I saw it this winter in Norway, there was bright green, purple and so much movement.”“They’re so much better in person, the way they dance and move around is insane and beautiful.”Of course, if you ask Martin, who everyone agreed was the best host ever, seeing guest reactions of pure wonder and joy is even “better than the lights themselves.” But still, he can’t deny that there’s a breathtaking magic to it all. He shared with Upworthy that “Sometimes it feels like it will pull you up in the sky like you are in the middle of it. I wish everyone would have the chance to witness it.”When it comes to tips for actually seeing the northern lights, Martin admits it still mostly comes down to being in the right place at the right time. Luckily, his Airbnb listing can help with that.Nature has a great way of reminding us that beyond the distractions and distresses of modern life, there is sublime beauty waiting for the chance to capture our hearts. This article originally appeared on 03.27.23
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Steve Martin has the best response to hearing that his book was banned in Florida
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Steve Martin has the best response to hearing that his book was banned in Florida

Over the past few years, book bans have been happening in public libraries and schools across America. In the 2022-2023 school year alone, over 3,300 books were banned in 182 school districts in 37 states.Most books that have been banned deal with LGBTQ and racial themes. According to a report from PEN America, Florida has been the most aggressive state regarding book bans, accounting for about 40% of those taken off the shelves. On November 5, Collier County, Florida, announced that it was banning 300 books from its school libraries out of an effort to comply with state law HB 1069, which says books that depict or describe “sexual content” can be challenged for removal.Among the books banned by the school district was “Shopgirl,” a novella by author Steve Martin published in 2000. Martin is also the star of the hit Hulu show, “Only Murders in the Building,” featuring Martin Short and Selena Gomez.Upon hearing about his book being banned, Martin responded with his iconic wit on Instagram, saying, “So proud to have my book Shopgirl banned in Collier County, Florida! Now, people who want to read it will have to buy a copy!" See on Instagram “Shopgirl” is a story about a young woman who works in a luxury department store and has an affair with a wealthy older man. It was made into a movie in 2005 starring Claire Danes and Martin. It’s believed the book was banned for its mild sexual content. On Amazon, the book is recommended for readers ages 13 and up. This article originally appeared on 11.11.23
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Hiring manager fired for refusing to post 'ghost jobs' is now sharing how to recognize them
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Hiring manager fired for refusing to post 'ghost jobs' is now sharing how to recognize them

Looking for a new job can be discouraging. Especially when it feels like you're constantly applying for jobs that you're qualified for, and some cases in which you're overqualified and never hearing back beyond the "thank you for applying" email. There doesn't seem to be a shortage in job openings but there does seem to be an abundance of people looking for work for months without finding gainful employment.According to Ceros Whaley, a former hiring manager at an unnamed company, the problem is that unsuspecting hopeful employees are unknowingly applying for "ghost jobs." Whaley shares that part of his job as a hiring manager was to create "ghost jobs," which are simply fake job listings. He explains that these job listings were not created to find more qualified people to fill positions but to "encourage" current employees to improve their performance. The entire thing likely feels a bit shocking to the average job seeker, but this is common practice for businesses according to Whaley. But it was his discomfort in continuing this practice that ultimately resulted in his termination from the company he can't name due to the non-disclosure agreement that he signed. Whaley says that he got into a little bit of a kerfuffle with his higher manager over the company continuing the ghost job ruse. By the time the man reached his tolerance level for posting fake jobs, he had already posted over 300 ghost jobs on sites like Indeed, Monster and other hiring sites. But Whaley shares that he found his morals and just couldn't continue the practice, though his manager told him that he was the best ghost job writer that the company had. a now hiring sign in front of a building Photo by Ernie Journeys on Unsplash "I'm not going to continue to post ghost job listings so our employees can act like they are scared to lose their jobs. That ruins their mental, it destroys their mental health deeply," Whaley recalls the conversation between he and his boss. The man shares that eventually his manager began yelling at him before telling him they would need to meet later and told him to clock out for the day. Giphy "It's disgusting. It's not just my company, it is every company I'm seeing doing this. It's Walmart doing this, it's Amazon doing this, I'm not going to disclose my company, but it's BestBuy doing this. But they're posting these fake job listings to trick you," Whaley exclaims, noting that the rates posted are often higher than current employees' salaries. But the frustrated former employee didn't stop there, he did a follow up video sharing how to spot ghost jobs and how to avoid them while you're job hunting. @ceroswhaley #fyp #storytime #job #foryou #viral ♬ original sound - CerosWhaley Pay attention to the posting date"If it was posted four days ago, five days ago, there's a high chance that you shouldn't click on that link," he says.According to Whaley if a job is posted five days ago it comes off as a flashing sign showing that the company is "hiring right now," even though they likely aren't. No time stampAnother tricky tactic that might slip right by you is job listings that don't have a time stamp. The former hiring manager simply says just don't apply for any job that doesn't have a time stamp on the listing. Please Help Sebastian Stan GIF by PBS SoCal Giphy Job descriptions that feel offWhaley explains, "job descriptions matter a lot when it comes to checking if it's a ghost job. If the job description is something insane, and I mean insane, when it doesn't really describe the job. That is also a way to tell when it is a ghost job. That is also a method to do that."There's a way around itMany people may not like his solutions, especially Millennials and Gen Z who are very phone averse. But Whaley says that the best way to get around ghost job listings is to call the potential job directly. It takes a little bit of work finding the correct number and probably a few breathing exercises to work up the nerve, but calling is an easy way to know if the job is real or not. He also says you can physically go to the place to speak with someone if you're feeling really bold. Whaley shares that potential employees tend to like the extra initiative that is shown by going a little old fashioned on the job hunt front. @ceroswhaley Replying to @Aυƚιʂƚιƈαʅʅყ.Dɾιʋҽɳ ?꧁༺༻꧂? #fyp #jobs #manager #reply #replyingtocomments #viral ♬ original sound - CerosWhaley "The best way to get a job at the job that I had–you had to call me. My direct line. I had a direct line. That was the difficult aspect. I was in an office you had to call my direct line and ask for my extension," Whaley says matter of factly. The last bit of advice he gives is to cross reference job postings you find on job listing boards with the company's actual website. "They'll post a job listing on Indeed or some job searching website and they won't have it on the website," the former hiring manager explains while informing people they can check small businesses' social media accounts. Job hunting can be soul sucking at times but using some of the tips Whaley shares, you just may be able to avoid wasting your time applying for jobs that don't exist.
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Mom catches dad breaking son out of preschool for the sweetest reason
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Mom catches dad breaking son out of preschool for the sweetest reason

Jenny Ho's 3-year-old son was having a tough time during his first week of preschool.Every parent has been there, and it's brutal. It's agonizingly tough to walk away when the person you love the most is clinging to you, hugging you, and basically begging you to stay — even though you know how important it is for them to go to school.On the second day of school drop-off, Jenny stayed strong and was able to get out of the school without a major meltdown. Her husband wasn't so lucky.Moments later, Jenny looked back and saw her husband, Wilson, and her son doing their best prison-break imitation — sprinting away from the school and back toward the car!We've all thought about it — can't we just take them back home, just this once?Wilson, who Jenny playfully calls "soft," actually did it!You can watch the full escape in Jenny's video on TikTok.Just look at the way dad and son are RUNNING from the school, checking over their shoulders like the authorities might take them down at any moment! What a thrilling escape. @findingjen Not them glancing back at the end ? #daddysboy #preschool #firstdayofschool Jenny told Newsweek that their son was a pandemic baby who was used to both parents working at home. The family has been together nonstop his entire life, so going off to school was a colossal adjustment.Though she found the whole thing hilarious, Jenny 100% supported dad coming to their son's rescue — he ultimately took the little guy home to play with trucks and eat ice cream.The video is hilarious and heartwarming. Some of the comments, though, were disappointing.Not everyone was on board with Jenny and Wilson's flexible parenting style."Next time marry a man... just sayin'" one commenter wrote."Your son needs to learn how to cope in any situation. He isn’t doing him any good. Now your son knows how to manipulate and get his way. You are not his friend you are a parent," lamented another.People with more old-school opinions on parenting had concerns that caving to tears would be detrimental to the boy in the long-run — a fair (although rudely-phrased) point.Jenny responded perfectly to these commenters in a separate video with a quote. "The world is so hard. Let your home be the safe, soft space."She went on to explain that while it's our job as parents to raise our kids to be strong and independent and disciplined, "not every little thing has to be a life lesson. Sometimes, when you're 3 years old... it feels nice to have someone on your side, to listen to you."Jenny's son has since gone back to school and adjusted beautifully (in your face, haters). While the initial viral video is touching and funny, the conversation it sparked ultimately demonstrated an important lesson.One of the most crucial parts of being a parent is being tasked with knowing what your kids need and when they need it.There's a time to break the rules and there's a time to push your kids to do hard thing. I bet a lot of us who were raised with a more traditional approach, if we really thought about it, wish our parents would have bent the rules for us a little more often.When he's all grown up, Jenny and Wilson's son is absolutely going to cherish that extra day spent with his dad.
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Formerly enslaved man's response to his 'master' wanting him back is a literary masterpiece
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Formerly enslaved man's response to his 'master' wanting him back is a literary masterpiece

In 1825, at the approximate age of 8, Jordan Anderson (sometimes spelled "Jordon") was sold into slavery and would live as a servant of the Anderson family for 39 years. In 1864, the Union Army camped out on the Anderson plantation and he and his wife, Amanda, were liberated. The couple eventually made it safely to Dayton, Ohio, where, in July 1865, Jordan received a letter from his former owner, Colonel P.H. Anderson. The letter kindly asked Jordan to return to work on the plantation because it had fallen into disarray during the war.On Aug. 7, 1865, Jordan dictated his response through his new boss, Valentine Winters, and it was published in the Cincinnati Commercial. The letter, entitled "Letter from a Freedman to His Old Master," was not only hilarious, but it showed compassion, defiance, and dignity. That year, the letter would be republished in the New York Daily Tribune and Lydia Marie Child's "The Freedman's Book."The letter mentions a "Miss Mary" (Col. Anderson's Wife), "Martha" (Col. Anderson's daughter), Henry (most likely Col. Anderson's son), and George Carter (a local carpenter).Dayton, Ohio,August 7, 1865To My Old Master, Colonel P.H. Anderson, Big Spring, TennesseeSir: I got your letter, and was glad to find that you had not forgotten Jordon, and that you wanted me to come back and live with you again, promising to do better for me than anybody else can. I have often felt uneasy about you. I thought the Yankees would have hung you long before this, for harboring Rebs they found at your house. I suppose they never heard about your going to Colonel Martin's to kill the Union soldier that was left by his company in their stable. Although you shot at me twice before I left you, I did not want to hear of your being hurt, and am glad you are still living. It would do me good to go back to the dear old home again, and see Miss Mary and Miss Martha and Allen, Esther, Green, and Lee. Give my love to them all, and tell them I hope we will meet in the better world, if not in this. I would have gone back to see you all when I was working in the Nashville Hospital, but one of the neighbors told me that Henry intended to shoot me if he ever got a chance.I want to know particularly what the good chance is you propose to give me. I am doing tolerably well here. I get twenty-five dollars a month, with victuals and clothing; have a comfortable home for Mandy, — the folks call her Mrs. Anderson, — and the children — Milly, Jane, and Grundy — go to school and are learning well. The teacher says Grundy has a head for a preacher. They go to Sunday school, and Mandy and me attend church regularly. We are kindly treated. Sometimes we overhear others saying, "Them colored people were slaves" down in Tennessee. The children feel hurt when they hear such remarks; but I tell them it was no disgrace in Tennessee to belong to Colonel Anderson. Many darkeys would have been proud, as I used to be, to call you master. Now if you will write and say what wages you will give me, I will be better able to decide whether it would be to my advantage to move back again.As to my freedom, which you say I can have, there is nothing to be gained on that score, as I got my free papers in 1864 from the Provost-Marshal-General of the Department of Nashville. Mandy says she would be afraid to go back without some proof that you were disposed to treat us justly and kindly; and we have concluded to test your sincerity by asking you to send us our wages for the time we served you. This will make us forget and forgive old scores, and rely on your justice and friendship in the future. I served you faithfully for thirty-two years, and Mandy twenty years. At twenty-five dollars a month for me, and two dollars a week for Mandy, our earnings would amount to eleven thousand six hundred and eighty dollars. Add to this the interest for the time our wages have been kept back, and deduct what you paid for our clothing, and three doctor's visits to me, and pulling a tooth for Mandy, and the balance will show what we are in justice entitled to. Please send the money by Adams's Express, in care of V. Winters, Esq., Dayton, Ohio. If you fail to pay us for faithful labors in the past, we can have little faith in your promises in the future. We trust the good Maker has opened your eyes to the wrongs which you and your fathers have done to me and my fathers, in making us toil for you for generations without recompense. Here I draw my wages every Saturday night; but in Tennessee there was never any pay-day for the negroes any more than for the horses and cows. Surely there will be a day of reckoning for those who defraud the laborer of his hire.In answering this letter, please state if there would be any safety for my Milly and Jane, who are now grown up, and both good-looking girls. You know how it was with poor Matilda and Catherine. I would rather stay here and starve — and die, if it come to that — than have my girls brought to shame by the violence and wickedness of their young masters. You will also please state if there has been any schools opened for the colored children in your neighborhood. The great desire of my life now is to give my children an education, and have them form virtuous habits.Say howdy to George Carter, and thank him for taking the pistol from you when you were shooting at me.From your old servant,Jordon AndersonLearn more about Jordan Anderson here.This article originally appeared on 11.03.17.
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Woman's family shares video of her actively dying so people can understand to expect
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Woman's family shares video of her actively dying so people can understand to expect

In the era of modern medicine, we are far more removed from death than our ancestors were. That's not something to complain about, of course, but it is something to be aware of. At some point, most of us will experience the death of a loved one, and if we have no idea what to expect through that process, it can be confusing and frightening to witness.The more we know about the death process, the less fear we have witnessing itA hospice nurse named Julie has dedicated her career to helping families through the death process and educating people on what dying actually looks like. "The more we know, the less we fear," she says, and it's true. While many of us may want to avoid thinking about death, it's a part of life we should better understand before we find ourselves confronted with it and perplexed by what's happening. Funerals are the closest most of us get to death until a close loved one dies. Photo by Rhodi Lopez on UnsplashOne woman's family shared a video with Julie with permission to show it to her audience for education purposes. "This is the most accurate video I have been sent of someone who is truly in the actively dying stages," Julie said. "No one knows what death actually looks like because when it's depicted in the movies or TV, it's false. It's wrapped up in a pretty little bow and it's not accurate." Julie shared that this video shows some of the stages of a person actively dying—not in pain, just going through the natural death process—as the body shuts down. Specifically, it shows how a person's breathing changes and what's normal to expect. Some may find the video difficult to watch, but she does offer trigger warnings before each clip and explains exactly what's happening so people can choose how much they want to see. Moaning and gasping while dying doesn't automatically mean pain or sufferingAs she explains, this is the "actively dying" phase, and the family shared that the woman in the video did die within hours of the videos seen here. The video highlights three different breathing and vocalization phases, which Julie describes as she shares why it's happening and what it means. For instance, in one clip, the woman is moaning in a rhythmic pattern, which indicates that she's not likely in pain (which loved ones might assume) but rather that the body is self-soothing. Julie reassured the audience that what appears to be struggle or suffering often isn't when a personal is dying. Bodily mechanisms and reflexes can look scary if you don't know what you're seeing, but knowing it's very natural and normal can be enormously helpful.Watch: - YouTube www.youtube.com Some commenters said that these clips were exactly what they saw during with a loved one's death, while others shared different experiences. (Much like childbirth, there are some distinct phases and stages of the process, but specifics can vary greatly from person to person, so not everyone will see the same things.) But overwhelmingly, people in the comments were appreciative of Julie's lesson and thankful to the family for allowing her to share:"I had the privilege of attending both my parents’ deaths. I found it to be a beautiful experience. It was almost like birthing them into their next stage. It was a powerful full circle event. Thank you for educating people about the death process. And thank you to the family who allowed the footage of their loved one to be shared with us.""My wife recently passed away, and I was prepared because of your videos. Thank You Julie.""I've never seen a person pass. She was not in pain and I am thankful that you explained this to us. RIP dear lady.""I’m an RN and this was very accurate. I’m glad to see the kind respectful videos donated by families used to educate people on the natural process of dying! Don’t be afraid, these people are comfortable and at peace! Thank you Julie for showing what we nurses see all of the time and are comfortable with." Being with a loved one when they die is a uniquely intimate experience.Photo by Muskan Anand/Pexels"My Dad passed away in 1999. Wish I had known that all these phases of active dying were truly normal. It was horrific thinking my Dad was suffering minutes before his actual death. Thank you so much for this video. It has brought me much comfort.""I was with my grandmother when she passed, and it was exactly like this. I’ll never forget it. Honored to have been by her side.""My brother who died from ALS was similar to the second video but I’d also add there are exceptions (as there is to everything) in that my mom smiled at me, closed her eyes, and then died without a gasp or a pause. It was literally like she just fell asleep and I remain to this day grateful for the ease of her passing. Thanks to the family for their willingness to share such a personal moment in the collective life of their family.""As a retired nurse in oncology, palliative care, and hospice, I applaud you for the excellent video you shared to educate others on the stages seen prior to death. It's so important.""In the last eighteen months I’ve lost both my parents to cancer. I was with them at the beginning and the very end and I must say the experience terrified me and I’ve been tormented since. NOW I know that the “stages” were “normal” and it’s brought me great comfort to know they weren’t in pain. I’m grateful that I got to be there for them both (even though they were unconscious when I arrived) but I do believe they knew that I was with them. I cannot thank you or the kind family of this lady enough for sharing this and explaining it in easy to understand way. Thank You so much. x""I have been a registered nurse for 24 years. The information provided in your videos is 100% accurate and you are performing a service for families and patients. It's one thing to read about end of life changes in a pamphlet, but hearing details from a hospice nurse along with supporting videos makes all of the difference. Thank you for what you are doing!!"As Julie said, "The more you know, the less you fear." It may be uncomfortable, but learning about the dying process before you witness it first hand can prevent a lot of misunderstanding and unnecessary trauma for you and your loved ones.You can see more of Nurse Julie's videos on her YouTube channel here.
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Psychologist shares 3 things you can say to a 'rude' kid to stop the attitude
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Psychologist shares 3 things you can say to a 'rude' kid to stop the attitude

At some point, every parent has to deal with a child who talks back and makes rude comments. It’s a normal part of growing up. But it’s a parent's job to stop it before it becomes an everyday behavior and an ingrained part of their personality.Stopping rude behavior can be especially difficult for parents because it's easy to get upset and escalate the situation when their children talk back or act rudely. The good news is that Dr. Becky is around to show us how to handle these situations like an adult. Dr. Becky Kennedy is a popular social media clinical psychologist who founded “Good Inside,” a program that helps support parents and children through every developmental phase.Dr. Becky shared 3 lines parents can use to respond to rudeness and talking back. “These will help you de-escalate the situation and immediately set you on the path for a positive interaction with your kid,” she says at the start of her video. See on Instagram Line 1: “I hear you, and you must be really upset to say something like that to me.”Line 2: “Look, all I’m saying is I know you’re a good kid, even when you say some not so good things.”Line 3: “I know there’s another way you can say that to me. Do you want to try again?”At first, a lot of folks may think that Dr. Becky is asking us to be too permissive of a kid who mouths off. But she has another perspective. “Now, I know what you might be thinking: ‘Am I just kind of permitting this rudeness?'” she says. “No! You are acting like an adult.” She says the key is avoiding being pulled into a power struggle or escalation of rudeness.“You are not being pulled into a power struggle or rudeness escalation. Yes, it might feel good in the moment to say something like, ‘You can’t talk to me like that, you’re so disrespectful, no iPad tonight!’ But we know if we give rudeness back to our kid, they are just going to give more rudeness back to us. That is so ineffective and we have to be the adult. So try one of those lines and let me know how it goes,” Dr. Becky said. A child is being rude to her mother.via RDNE Stock ProjectThe key question for parents to consider in this situation is: Am I reacting or responding to my child’s behavior? Dr. Becky believes we should respond to the situation calmly and redirect the child’s behavior.One commenter put Dr. Becky’s advice into action and had a great result.“This absolutely works! My son said something awful to me the other morning while getting ready for school. I thought of you , took a deep breath, and said, ‘Wow, you must be really upset to have said that to me’ and he just nodded and said, ‘I am.’ We hugged, he even apologized and we connected,” A commenter wrote.A fellow therapist, Dr. Claudia Luiz, explained the psychological concept behind Dr. Becky’s advice a bit further.“This is what psychoanalysis calls ‘fusion.’ When the bad is fused with good, it neutralizes toxic interactions. Fusion is hard to achieve. Negative feels eclipse the living, positive ones, leading to ‘rudeness.’ To get more ‘fused’ you start by processing your impatience with your own negative feelings. You can learn to appreciate why it’s hard to dislike and feel angry at your children with fusion to feel less intense or dysregulated. With fusion, you can be more chill,” Dr. Luiz wrote.Dr. Becky’s advice is valuable because most parents would have a knee-jerk reaction to their child being rude and attempt to punish them or correct them in a harsh manner. However, Dr. Becky says that it’s best to diffuse the situation instead and that will make it less likely for the child to be rude because they aren’t getting the response they want. But what they are getting is something more, a chance to connect with a parent and an open, safe space to share their feelings without having to mask them in hostility.
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The guitarist who put a nail in Jeff Beck’s coffin: “We knew he was going to be trouble”
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The guitarist who put a nail in Jeff Beck’s coffin: “We knew he was going to be trouble”

"He did all the dirty tricks." The post The guitarist who put a nail in Jeff Beck’s coffin: “We knew he was going to be trouble” first appeared on Far Out Magazine.
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