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The Associated Press and other media outlets interfered in the election last night in Iowa by calling the state for Trump while Iowans were still casting votes in the caucus. Trump’s win wasn’t close‚ so any effect was on the margins. But that’s no defense. It’s happened before; there are predictable ways to avoid doing it‚ which were ignored; and there are real reasons to worry about the destabilizing effects in this climate if it happens again in a closer election. The caucus began at 7 p....

The decision by The Associated Press and other major media outlets to call the Iowa Caucuses a victory for Donald Trump before everyone had cast ballots has angered both Iowans and candidates. Fox News‚ CNN and MSNBC also called the race early‚ about the same time as AP‚ about 31 minutes after caucuses began at 7 p.m. (The USA TODAY Network relies on the AP to call races.) Republican Party of Iowa Chair Jeff Kaufmann lambasted the media for the early call‚ issuing a statement after the AP...

The biggest story from the Iowa Caucus wasn't about Trump. It was about media‚ and how their glib herd mentality massively skews our perceptions and drives our politics. Look at how the major news outlets (the NYT‚ WaPo‚ Politico‚ AP‚ etc.) uniformly called Trump's Iowa win "decisive‚" "an early knockout‚" a "commanding" victory in which he "conquered." Wait‚ what? Donald Trump is‚ for all intents and purposes‚ running as the incumbent—quite literally; an astounding two-thirds of Iowa...

Are we placing unrealistic expectations on ourselves as parents to entertain our children every second of every day? This is what a mom on Instagram purports in a clip that’s resonated deeply with fellow parents who feel stretched to the breaking point.“I just spent a weekend with my kids who are 6‚ 4 and 2-years-old‚” begins working mom Jen B who goes by the 8thdayformomonly. “And the amount of time I spent setting up activities‚ cleaning up activities‚ participating in activities is so much.”In a video viewed over 35 thousand times‚ she says she doesn’t recall her parents ever putting in this much time. “I feel like the standard that we are holding ourselves to as parents to entertain our children is so much higher than it was when we were kids.“It’s just a really‚ really high bar when you have two working parents and you’re also maintaining a house‚” she continued. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Jennifer B. (@8thdayformomonly) The content creator says the expectation has shifted over the years.“We’ve changed the expectation of parenting to think we’re always supposed to be involved and we’re supposed to enjoy every minute and get on the ground and play with them… and so I don’t know if you needed to hear this today‚" Jen B said. "I needed to hear this today. We can lower the bar‚ we don’t have to be constantly entertaining our kids‚ we can give them space to entertain themselves.”The comments on the video contain astute commentary.One commenter wonders if part of the reason we’re running ourselves ragged is to make up for what we felt was missing from our own childhoods.“Part of me wonders if the reason we do this to ourselves is because we don’t have any memory of our parents playing with us like this‚” writes Littleseel.Another says she once heard that the amount of time put in by working parents today is more than stay-at-home-parents of the '50s.“I heard somewhere that working parents today spend 50% more time entertaining kids than SAHMs did in the '50s‚” writes laura.b823.“I believe that stat‚” 8thdayformomonly responded.While we didn’t find a study citing working parents today versus stay-at-home moms in the 50s‚ this study from 2016 shows the amount of time parents spend with their children doubled for moms and quadrupled for dads between 1965 and 2012.And then‚ of course‚ there’s the question of whether this level of attention is in the children's best interests. After all‚ they need to learn to keep themselves occupied and to work through boredom. Commenter little_beast_miguel writes‚ “It’s also important to let them entertain themselves to learn not to rely on their parents for literally everything."There is a school of thought that a more laissez-faire‚ hands-off approach dubbed “benign neglect” helps foster a greater sense of independence and self-reliance.“The benign neglect movement seems to be a backswing from helicopter parenting‚ which encouraged coddling millennials and Gen Zs throughout childhood‚” NYU Langone Health child psychologist Yamalis Diaz told The New York Post.Actress Jennifer Garner is a big proponent of this style of parenting.In a Today Show appearance‚ the actress‚ who raises three children with her ex‚ Ben Affleck‚ said‚ “I want to be around. But I also think it’s OK if they suffer from a little bit of benign neglect. Their lives are their own. I’m not trying to live their life‚ and I don’t mind that they see that I love mine.”As with anything‚ though‚ balance is key.Benign neglect is not the same as actual neglect.Says Sanam Hafeez‚ PsyD‚ a neuropsychologist in New York and the Director of Comprehensive Consultation Psychological Services to Parents. “It's a balance between freedom and safety‚ ensuring that children have the space to grow while maintaining a secure environment.”Jennifer Garner believes in "benign neglect"Karon Liu/Wikimeda CommonsIn a Today Show appearance‚ the actress‚ who raises three children with her ex‚ Ben Affleck‚ said‚ “I want to be around. But I also think it’s OK if they suffer from a little bit of benign neglect. Their lives are their own. I’m not trying to live their life‚ and I don’t mind that they see that I love mine.”As with anything‚ though‚ balance is key. Benign neglect is not the same as actual neglect.Says Sanam Hafeez‚ PsyD‚ a neuropsychologist in New York and the Director of Comprehensive Consultation Psychological Services to Parents. “It's a balance between freedom and safety‚ ensuring that children have the space to grow while maintaining a secure environment.”

We all have come to expect awards show acceptance speeches to be filled with heartfelt thanks to others—industry peers‚ family‚ spouses‚ a higher power…and in Jennifer Coolidge’s case‚ “all the evil gays‚” (but that’s another story). But as Neicy Nash took to the stage to accept her award for Outstanding Supporting Actress in a Limited or Anthology Series or Movie at the Emmys last night‚ she did something a little different. She thanked herself. She thanked herself. Granted‚ Nash‚ who won the award for her performance as Glenda Cleveland in Netflix’s “Dahmer – Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story‚” did thank a higher power‚ along with showrunner Ryan Murphy‚ her Dahmer co-star Evan Peters‚ Netflix‚ those who voted for her and “her better half‚” Jessica Betts. But what people are really remembering is what she said next:“And you know who I wanna thank?” Nash asked. “I wanna thank me. For believing in me‚ and doing what they said I could not do. And I wanna say to myself in front of all you beautiful people: go on‚ girl‚ with your bad self. You did that.”As the audience erupted in applause‚ Nash took a moment to honor victims of police violence‚ saying‚ “I accept this award on behalf of every Black and brown woman who has gone unheard yet over-policed‚” she said. “Like Glenda Cleveland. Like Sandra Bland. Like Breonna Taylor‚” adding that her it’s her job as an artist “to speak truth to power.” "And‚ baby‚ I'm going to do it 'til the day I die‚" Nash concluded‚ before exclaiming‚ "Momma‚ I won!" to her mother in the audience. It wasn’t long before thousands on social media began hailing the viral moment as an “instant classic‚” and praising Nash for‚ as one person on X put it‚ “giving a masterclass on how to make the most out of an #Emmys acceptance speech."niecy nash to niecy nash: "you did that" pic.twitter.com/ugCe79LZk9— zoë (@zoe_alliyah) January 16‚ 2024 When life is life-ing a little too hard &; that little voice in your head tries to convince you you’re a loser…Remember to channel your inner Niecy Nash and tell that voice:🗣️AHT‚ AHT. IMMA WINNER BABY! pic.twitter.com/lRXEa6rDJw— Shanelle Genai✨ (@shanellegenai) January 16‚ 2024 As the beautiful and incomparable @NiecyNash reminds us‚ always - in all ways - bet on yourself! And forever speak truth to power✌🏽 pic.twitter.com/1OdTMMeEFZ— BlackGirlsUnscripted (@BGUnscripted) January 16‚ 2024 What’s more‚ the viral moment grew to be a masterclass in healthy self esteem. Talking to reporters in a follow-up interview‚ Nash explained why she felt the need to credit herself‚ saying "Sometimes you have to encourage what? Yourself.”Niecy Nash-Betts on why she thanked herself during her Emmy’s speech win 👏🏽 pic.twitter.com/7Nfjc7Y2Pb— Liz Calvario (@lizcalvario) January 16‚ 2024 "And that's why it's not called mama-esteem‚ them-esteem‚ us-esteem‚ it's called self esteem because don’t nobody got to believe it‚ but you‚” she continued. Ultimately‚ Nash hopes her iconic speech becomes a “delicious invitation” for people to believe in themselves. And that right there is a beautiful takeaway for everyone. We might not all be striving for the life of an award-winning actor‚ but nearly all of us could be a bit better about hyping ourselves up. May we all have the audacity today to tell ourselves‚ “you did that.” Whatever it is.

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